心靈雞湯:初次約會(huì)必須注意的11個(gè)細(xì)節(jié)

It doesnt matter where or how you got one, first dates are awesome. And terrifying。 不論你在哪兒及怎樣約會(huì)，初次約會(huì)感覺(jué)很棒。還有些嚇人。 Whether youre meeting up with your hairdressers cousins single friend, or youve decided to choose an unusual date on HowAboutWe, there are more first world problems in the world of dating now than ever. On your first date, they can be deal-breakers, so check out these 11 first date tips for modern love lives。 不管你是要去見(jiàn)你理發(fā)師的堂兄弟的單身朋友，還是你決定在約會(huì)交友網(wǎng)站HowAboutWe上選擇一位不尋常的對(duì)象，如今約會(huì)是到的重大 問(wèn)題比起以往要來(lái)得多。它們可能會(huì)成為初次約會(huì)的不速之客，因此看看這11條關(guān)于現(xiàn)代愛(ài)情生活的初次約會(huì)的建議吧。 1. Know when its a date (and when it isnt) 分清什么時(shí)候是在約會(huì)(什么時(shí)候不是約會(huì)) There are no hard rules any more when it comes to what counts as a date. You could go for nachos with several friends and still make that your first date if you both want to. Or you could meet one-on-one, have dinner, sleep together, and call it friends with benefits. That being so, your safest bet is to be clear by calling it a date when you agree where and when to meet up。 關(guān)于怎么界定什么是約會(huì)已經(jīng)沒(méi)有很?chē)?yán)格的規(guī)則了。你可以約幾個(gè)朋友一起去吃烤干酪辣味玉米片，如果你們倆都愿意的話，這同樣可以當(dāng)成你們的初次約會(huì)。你也可以一對(duì)一見(jiàn)面、吃飯、睡覺(jué)，稱之為炮友。也就是說(shuō)，最穩(wěn)妥的做法是，你要清楚你們?nèi)绾谓缍ㄔ谀睦锛霸谑裁磿r(shí)候見(jiàn)面算約會(huì)。 2. Talk, dont text 交談，不要發(fā)短信 Asking someone on a date by text or IM might seem like a great way to dodge confidence issues, but it loses a lot of your message. Instead, make the arrangements the old-fashioned way by phone or in person so that you can hear each others voices. And if youre invited on a date via SMS, text back, Sounds good. Give me a call when youre free to talk about it! 通過(guò)短信或IM(即時(shí)通訊軟件)約會(huì)似乎是一種規(guī)避信心不足的非常好的方法，但它會(huì)丟失了很多信息。用傳統(tǒng)的方式安排約會(huì)，那就是打電話，或面對(duì)面說(shuō)，這樣你可以聽(tīng)到彼此的聲音。如果別人發(fā)短信邀約你，你就回復(fù)：聽(tīng)起來(lái)不錯(cuò)。如果你方便溝通的話，給我打個(gè)電話。 3. Dont do dinner 不要選擇吃飯時(shí)間 Dinner takes a while and if youre desperate to escape after the first drink, youll wish youd arranged a shorter date! Go for a lunch date instead, or choose a non-food situation like a walk in the park. That way you can leave early if you want, or make it last all afternoon if youre having fun。 吃晚餐很花時(shí)間，如果在喝完第一杯酒以后你非常想離開(kāi)，你會(huì)希望你安排了一次簡(jiǎn)短的約會(huì)。可以選擇吃頓午飯，或是不要選擇吃飯的時(shí)段，比如在公園里散個(gè)步。這樣的話，如果你想早點(diǎn)結(jié)束約會(huì)，就可以早點(diǎn)走啦;或是你覺(jué)得很有趣，可以讓它持續(xù)一整個(gè)下午。 

4. Agree a connectivity policy 協(xié)商一致 Do you hate it when people answer phone calls during a date? Or are you too busy tweeting to notice? Agree with your date from the start about whats OK and whats rude so that you wont get annoyed with each others mobile interruptions。 約會(huì)時(shí)對(duì)方還在接電話，你是不是不喜歡?或是你自己忙著發(fā)微博?從一開(kāi)始和約會(huì)對(duì)象商定哪些是允許的，哪些是不禮貌的舉動(dòng)，這樣當(dāng)對(duì)方手機(jī)響起打擾你們談話時(shí)，你就用不著生氣了。 5. Smell nice 清新的氣味 Smell is one of the most complex human senses; it triggers emotions, memories, and physical feelings. If you smell nice to your date, theyll find you more attractive; if you smell nice to yourself, youll feel more confident and attractive, too. Scents that most people (male or female) like include fruits, vanilla, and clean human skin。 嗅覺(jué)是人類(lèi)最復(fù)雜的感官之一;它會(huì)激發(fā)情感、記憶、和身體的感受。如果氣味不令人討厭，你就更有吸引力;如果你自己覺(jué)得氣味不錯(cuò)，你會(huì)更有自信和更有吸引力。大多數(shù)人(包括男性和女性)喜歡的氣味包括水果味、香草味和清潔的體味。 6. Ask them to do you a favour 請(qǐng)他們幫你一個(gè)忙 It may sound backwards, but its true. Research shows that asking somebody to do you a personal favour tends to make them like you more, so ask for something small like their help to choose a gift for a friend. Then thank them plenty and show your gratitude by inviting them on a second date! 聽(tīng)起來(lái)可能會(huì)不理解，但這是真的。研究表明，請(qǐng)別人幫你一個(gè)忙通常會(huì)讓他們更加喜歡你，所以請(qǐng)他們幫個(gè)小忙，比如說(shuō)在為朋友選禮物上給個(gè)建議。然后深情地謝謝他們，再次邀約他們以表達(dá)你的謝意。

It doesnt matter where or how you got one, first dates are awesome. And terrifying。 不論你在哪兒及怎樣約會(huì)，初次約會(huì)感覺(jué)很棒。還有些嚇人。 Whether youre meeting up with your hairdressers cousins single friend, or youve decided to choose an unusual date on HowAboutWe, there are more first world problems in the world of dating now than ever. On your first date, they can be deal-breakers, so check out these 11 first date tips for modern love lives。 不管你是要去見(jiàn)你理發(fā)師的堂兄弟的單身朋友，還是你決定在約會(huì)交友網(wǎng)站HowAboutWe上選擇一位不尋常的對(duì)象，如今約會(huì)是到的重大 問(wèn)題比起以往要來(lái)得多。它們可能會(huì)成為初次約會(huì)的不速之客，因此看看這11條關(guān)于現(xiàn)代愛(ài)情生活的初次約會(huì)的建議吧。 1. Know when its a date (and when it isnt) 分清什么時(shí)候是在約會(huì)(什么時(shí)候不是約會(huì)) There are no hard rules any more when it comes to what counts as a date. You could go for nachos with several friends and still make that your first date if you both want to. Or you could meet one-on-one, have dinner, sleep together, and call it friends with benefits. That being so, your safest bet is to be clear by calling it a date when you agree where and when to meet up。 關(guān)于怎么界定什么是約會(huì)已經(jīng)沒(méi)有很?chē)?yán)格的規(guī)則了。你可以約幾個(gè)朋友一起去吃烤干酪辣味玉米片，如果你們倆都愿意的話，這同樣可以當(dāng)成你們的初次約會(huì)。你也可以一對(duì)一見(jiàn)面、吃飯、睡覺(jué)，稱之為炮友。也就是說(shuō)，最穩(wěn)妥的做法是，你要清楚你們?nèi)绾谓缍ㄔ谀睦锛霸谑裁磿r(shí)候見(jiàn)面算約會(huì)。 2. Talk, dont text 交談，不要發(fā)短信 Asking someone on a date by text or IM might seem like a great way to dodge confidence issues, but it loses a lot of your message. Instead, make the arrangements the old-fashioned way by phone or in person so that you can hear each others voices. And if youre invited on a date via SMS, text back, Sounds good. Give me a call when youre free to talk about it! 通過(guò)短信或IM(即時(shí)通訊軟件)約會(huì)似乎是一種規(guī)避信心不足的非常好的方法，但它會(huì)丟失了很多信息。用傳統(tǒng)的方式安排約會(huì)，那就是打電話，或面對(duì)面說(shuō)，這樣你可以聽(tīng)到彼此的聲音。如果別人發(fā)短信邀約你，你就回復(fù)：聽(tīng)起來(lái)不錯(cuò)。如果你方便溝通的話，給我打個(gè)電話。 3. Dont do dinner 不要選擇吃飯時(shí)間 Dinner takes a while and if youre desperate to escape after the first drink, youll wish youd arranged a shorter date! Go for a lunch date instead, or choose a non-food situation like a walk in the park. That way you can leave early if you want, or make it last all afternoon if youre having fun。 吃晚餐很花時(shí)間，如果在喝完第一杯酒以后你非常想離開(kāi)，你會(huì)希望你安排了一次簡(jiǎn)短的約會(huì)?？梢赃x擇吃頓午飯，或是不要選擇吃飯的時(shí)段，比如在公園里散個(gè)步。這樣的話，如果你想早點(diǎn)結(jié)束約會(huì)，就可以早點(diǎn)走啦;或是你覺(jué)得很有趣，可以讓它持續(xù)一整個(gè)下午。 

4. Agree a connectivity policy 協(xié)商一致 Do you hate it when people answer phone calls during a date? Or are you too busy tweeting to notice? Agree with your date from the start about whats OK and whats rude so that you wont get annoyed with each others mobile interruptions。 約會(huì)時(shí)對(duì)方還在接電話，你是不是不喜歡?或是你自己忙著發(fā)微博?從一開(kāi)始和約會(huì)對(duì)象商定哪些是允許的，哪些是不禮貌的舉動(dòng)，這樣當(dāng)對(duì)方手機(jī)響起打擾你們談話時(shí)，你就用不著生氣了。 5. Smell nice 清新的氣味 Smell is one of the most complex human senses; it triggers emotions, memories, and physical feelings. If you smell nice to your date, theyll find you more attractive; if you smell nice to yourself, youll feel more confident and attractive, too. Scents that most people (male or female) like include fruits, vanilla, and clean human skin。 嗅覺(jué)是人類(lèi)最復(fù)雜的感官之一;它會(huì)激發(fā)情感、記憶、和身體的感受。如果氣味不令人討厭，你就更有吸引力;如果你自己覺(jué)得氣味不錯(cuò)，你會(huì)更有自信和更有吸引力。大多數(shù)人(包括男性和女性)喜歡的氣味包括水果味、香草味和清潔的體味。 6. Ask them to do you a favour 請(qǐng)他們幫你一個(gè)忙 It may sound backwards, but its true. Research shows that asking somebody to do you a personal favour tends to make them like you more, so ask for something small like their help to choose a gift for a friend. Then thank them plenty and show your gratitude by inviting them on a second date! 聽(tīng)起來(lái)可能會(huì)不理解，但這是真的。研究表明，請(qǐng)別人幫你一個(gè)忙通常會(huì)讓他們更加喜歡你，所以請(qǐng)他們幫個(gè)小忙，比如說(shuō)在為朋友選禮物上給個(gè)建議。然后深情地謝謝他們，再次邀約他們以表達(dá)你的謝意。